I’ll be honest. When I found out I had cancer, I splurged on things I normally wouldn’t buy like my gorgeous and totally functional Kate Spade and Coach bags. Joe built a rock wall, sold his bikes and bought an even sweeter mountain bike. (Actually, as I’m typing this I’ve just justified those things.) But it was more than that. It was all the lattes, which I don’t normally drink. We ordered take out – a lot. We dined out – a lot. We planned trips. Awesome trips! I continued to pay for our sitter and housekeeping services even though I lost my job in November. Once December came and I found out that there was a possibility of having cancer, it was about survival. More than that, it was about trying to find some way to compensate for the joyless struggle of battling cancer while maintaining some sense of normalcy with a lot more fun. Simply put, I enjoyed retail therapy to ease the pain. This, of course, on top of the co-pays and deductibles. It was best not to look. Just go.
I will be done treatment on January 31st. I can’t even tell you how excited I am about that. It feels right around the corner. What’s funny is that right around the corner is my next surgery. Yes, another surgery. Next Wednesday, November 2nd actually. I’ll be headed down to Sibley to meet my fabulous plastic surgeon, Dr. Anita Kulkharni. I will be having my expanders removed and my implants put in. I will finally be able to have soft breasts again instead of the rocks that I’m currently sporting. I won’t ever regain sensation in my breast. The nerves have all been damaged from the mastectomy. I still won’t have nipples. That’s another surgery. I will also be having abdominoplasty to address my severe diastasis recti. Yes, I’m having a tummy tuck. And that is awesome. But more importantly, sewing my abs back together will strengthen my core which will alleviate the severe back pain I’ve endured since having H. I will save several thousand dollars linking these two surgeries as insurance has no interest in paying for a tummy tuck even if it is really to fix an issue that affects my quality of life that exercise, physical therapy, acupuncture, massage, chiropractic care, and rest were not able to fix? Is it my fault that I’m going to be looking awesome by summer? No, it is not. So boom…onto the card it goes.
So here we are. I’m having surgery next Wednesday and it is going to be a 4 – 6-week recovery process. At the end, I will look and feel better and will be on my way to feeling a little bit closer to my new self. This Halloween my costume is “Before”.
It is also Fatima, our sitter’s last day tomorrow. So surgery next Wednesday and no sitter. Luckily my parents have offered to have H next week and Hilary will be on call for the week after. That’s about as far as I’ve gotten but I’m certain it will be sorted out soon.
Which brings me to another new….we’ve had a lot of new(s) of late. Over the summer we learned that S has Aspergers in addition to his ADHD. His case is mild but we still struggle daily. We’ve decided not to tell him so that he can’t try to use it as a crutch. He’s begun weekly group therapy which he loves. Together the kids work on social skills and learn more about how to engage and interact with the world. As parents, we’re learning new skills to manage our day to day. And his school is really engaged in helping Sam thrive. It’s an exciting time. And we’re fortunate to finally be able to start putting all these pieces start to work together.
And then….we decided to sell our house. But Heather, your house is AMAZE-BALLS! I know, I know. The decision nearly killed us. But our kids (and S especially) need their own rooms. BUY OUR HOUSE. We are hoping it will be a short listing and we’ll be under contract soon because keeping the house tidy with three kids is for the birds! Where we’re going is up in the air because we confirmed that Joe can work anywhere. It’s an exciting time. And we’re ready for a new adventure.
So, this was a bit of a rambly post but so is life. We’ve got a lot of moving parts in our home these days. And some parts are good, some are bad, and some are just plain crazy. I’m learning patience, gaining strength and getting smarter about life each day. Now that I’m pretty confident there’s going to be a tomorrow, I’m ready to start dreaming of an amazing 2017. Just have to knock off a few items on the old to-do list.
Hang in there with me, folks.
Much love to you all and PLEASE VOTE!